(Yes I’m still human)
I Was down London seeing one of my Favourite bands ‘SOILWORK’ this past Monday
And after the show Me and my best pal got into a pretty interesting conversation about life
Thankfully not being too ‘wankered’
We managed a pretty interesting debate over several Malibu’s
About emotions and the subject of why people feel certain ways
And we narrowed it down to this..
In Life, there are only two emotions:
FEAR and LOVE
All the others, are just ‘labels’ of these two emotions
You’re most likely ‘Fearful’ in some way
You’re feeling a form of LOVE or FEAR ( depending on how you perceive it)
And moment to moment, day by day
We’re bombarded with MANY different emotions and feelings from
Regret, overwhelm, insecurity, anxiety, sadness, confusion etc
The list goes on
But I need you to consider this
Did you know the only two fears you’re born with
Are the FEAR of Falling
And the FEAR of loud noises
Those are inbuilt in us as humans
But as we grow, from ages around 2 – 10
We’re conditioned to feel other emotions
Jealousy, isolation, greed, hopelessness etc..
But Isn’t it crazy how prior to 2 years old
All we really knew was LOVE?..
Sure, we’d cry for attention
But that was because we wanted LOVE
Food, warmth and comfort
And If we crapped in our nappy?..
We wouldn’t be looking around the room terrified of others opinion of us
Thinking to ourself ‘’I’m a loser, what’s everyone gonna think of me?! I can’t believe I’m so stupid!’’
We DONT think that as a child
We are just ourselves
And we KNOW the importance of love
We have so many fears and struggles with self judgment
Things are never ‘good enough’
We’re always comparing and having a hard time ‘fitting everything in’
A constant feeling of ‘lack’ ensues us every day
So we operate from a place of FEAR
Because, ultimately we fear 3 things:
FEAR of LOSS
FEAR os LESS
FEAR of NEVER
We fear we’re going to have ‘less’ of a good time If we don’t drink (Even If we maybe don’t want to)
So we feel pressured into doing so
So we don’t get judged..
We fear we’re going to have LESS than someone else, or what others ‘Expect’ of us
So we cripple ourselves into working HARDER
To validate our success to others
EVEN at the expense of our own personal health and relationships
We fear being able to experience the life we truly desire
So we make choices to justify why It’s ‘different’ for us
‘’I don’t have time’’
‘’I can’t afford it’’
You CANNOT break free, from your negative, Non serving emotions
IF you’re operating from a FEAR based mindset
the way to Challenge this is to answer with complete honesty this Question:
WHAT WOULD LOVE DO NOW?
^^ Read that Again
5 words right there that could change your life FOREVER
What would LOVE do now for you?..
How would it act?..
Would it drink too much?
Would it smoke too much?
Would it say ‘NO’ To exercise?
Would it Shout at the kids?
Would it feel the need to prove itself right?
Would it really tell you how ‘pathetic’ and ‘weak’ you are?
Would it harshly judge you?..
FEAR would do those things
And all that stands between YOU and what you WANT from this life
Is your choices and actions
Luke ‘Understands Love’ Harrison